Poor Me Syndrome

PMS. The Poor Me Syndrome.

Guys, you too can be afflicted by PMS and not even know it.

This disease selects all gender, every ethnicity and all demographics!

Its running rampant and I saw three cases of it yesterday. Myself included!

Levels of severity can differ day to day and some of the symptoms to watch for might include:

  • Making excuses
  • Justifying to yourself that you have chosen to do the ”right” thing
  • Commiserating with others
  • Seeking sympathy

gym bag
I will share a personal experience with you. On Tuesday, I believed I couldn’t go to the gym because I was too busy from my work and at the end of the day I felt tired. A raise of hands if you’ve felt the same way. That was my belief but actually it was my own personal opinion created by what I thought was my own reality.

It all begins with a single thought and snowballs from there



This is a core value and belief that I am working on changing. How will I do this?

Firstly, I have to stop thinking I am the victim. What I mean by this is, Life Happens. Ever hear yourself say, What did I do to deserve this or Why is this happening to ME!? Instead, use the power of choice and empower yourself to create the life you want.

Didn’t I mention in one of these sentences that I wasn’t excluded from PMS. Believe this, there were times I felt so frustrated at good friends because they didn’t understand I was simply too tired to exercise because they didn’t know what it was like to be in my body, never had major surgery, had my job or simply had the time to exercise that I felt I didn’t.

A long time ago I accepted that I was obese because I chose to live my life the way I did. No exercise and poor eating habits.

Excuses, excuses, excuses and a good case of finger pointing too!

Ban the words from your vocabulary: They and them.

Then, slide in a good amount of personal accountability.

Create the body you want, create the life you want… You choose the actions. No one can do that for you.

You are in control.

I’m not alone, a good friend was told that her excuses were lame for not going to the gym. I thought to myself, the person who says that her excuse are lame perceives it just as the person perceives her busy life and making the excuses not to go to the gym. That’s her choice and her belief. It won’t necessarily get her the results she wants (better physical healthy, weight loss and energy) by not going to the gym but she choose to make these excuses and that is her reality as she sees it.

Two ideas on how to commit to exercise that are working for me:

  • Publicly announce your intentions. Tell your family, friends and loved ones. They will remind you of your commitments and keep you on the straight and narrow
  • Tell yourself you will exercise after work. Bring your gym bag and commit to getting to the gym by a certain time. Let nothing stop you. Make time for the activity and put value on it. Ever notice how committed we are to things we put value on?

Yesterday while leaving work with my gym bag, a fellow co worker saw me and asked if I was going away for the weekend. I told him I was off to the gym. His response, I’m sorry and then he laughed.

Me, I just smiled and told him I love it.

Hey, who would have thought.

Me, love exercise? The lightbulb has gone on. I realize the importance of activity in my life and value its benefits.

What’s not to love.