Darlene is Vata body type
she was an overweight Vata and unhappy with her appearance just like anyone who has excess weight that they're carrying. Being unhappy with her weight and relationship, Darlene considered choices most certainly not in her best interest.
SS, you most definatly are on a Journey. Your thread is appropriately named. Journey's have all sorts of twists and turns and it's how you interpret them and then make choices that lead you to your next destination. The choices are always yours to make.
I wont get in the middle of this, as there's nothing to get in the middle of. Darlene offered her comments and were interpreted in the form they were.
I offered a book for you to read, as I offered to James and to One Smart Cookie and all the readers of my blog in my post Victim or Victor
. It was about 10 days ago I believe, that I suggested that you get The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I hope you took my advice and if so, turn to chapters 3 and 4, the Second and Third Agreement:
Agreement #2 - Don't Take Anything Personally
Agreement #3 - Don't Make Assumptions
It's been wonderful getting to know you and hear the fire in your words when you chose to take your life back. I hope you continue on a wonderful journey and get the results you're looking for. We're always here for questions, answers and I can guarantee you that neither Darlene nor I take anything personally, so feel free to say whatever's on your mind.