Comments on: It Must Be A Girl Thing

By: Rob

Rob — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 02:01:02 +0000

for me it would be pretty straight forward and I personally wouldn’t read too much into it. I would just have figured that the plans had changed or something came up and it was all good.

Guys are logical

Women are emotional

it’s that simple

unless you’re a woman who would then read a whole bunch into why I thought it was so straight forward and what I really meant by that. I must be judging, or secretly thinking something else.

By: onesmartcookie

onesmartcookie — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 12:34:37 +0000

Ooooooooooooooh, I can SO relate! Thanks for the early morning chuckle.

My husband doesn’t get how the house has to be clean for company. Sometimes we are just plain..slobs. Not that we live in filth or anything but sometimes our home is unorganized chaos. I have a saying, “A clean house is a sign of a wasted life”. Meaning, that sometimes the time we spend cleaning could be sometimes spent better elsewhere. Maybe someone else’s home. I remember when we first moved into our ‘first place’. I would spin around like a whirling dervish before the company came and get into a frenzy making sure the toilet had the bubbly blue stuff, the rugs were freshly manicured and everything was oh so fresh. Right now I might have to consider getting a house keeper to keep it under control.

For me unexpected company is a no no no matter who you are! My home time is so precious to me that I’ve almost become a hermit. You see, I am with MANY people everyday and 3/4 of the day so I get peopled out but that’s just me. It’s my haven and our retreat.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 04:41:35 +0000

If he explained the situation why would she be offended? Seems to me that any reasonable person - especially someone who understands what entertaining involves - would certainly understand that the circumstances weren’t good for you to have them over. It seems to me that in a way you may have removed this possibility in the future by having them over anyway.

By: Michele

Michele — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 14:22:18 +0000

Great comments. Looking back I think a couple of things were at play for me…

1. His mom had never been to my house so I wanted to make a good impression. In my mind, Good Impression = Clean House…that might be a girl thing…Clean house = a crap load of work for Michele

2. I have seen first hand with friends how not getting along with in-laws can cause major problems in a marriage. I just didn’t want to take the chance of offending her. I like Andrew’s family and I would like the good relationship I have with them to stay that way.

3. I realized this morning that the situation touched a sore spot for me. My mother constantly volunteers me to do stuff for other people without asking me. I have told my mom to stop doing that but she continues (now I do live far away so it doesn’t happen much any more). I tell her to ask me first but she rarely does. Some people might be thinking just don’t do the thing she volunteered you for…well..example: how do you tell your Grandma no? Especially when you want to help her but you need to teach your mother a lesson?

So when Andrew volunteered my house to entertain, it hit that same spot. So I have realized:

protectiveness of in-law relationship + sore spot = argument