Comments on: The Secrets of Successful Marriages – Part One http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html Real People Real Results Sat, 11 Oct 2008 02:13:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.3 By: Rob http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-375 Rob Sun, 16 Sep 2007 19:04:59 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-375 Respect is so important Michele. It's a simple as listening to the joys of your partner. Listen, acknowledge, smile and congratulate them on their win even if you don't understand it. My personal philosophy is "if it's important to my partner, then it's important to me" thanks for a great post Respect is so important Michele.

It’s a simple as listening to the joys of your partner. Listen, acknowledge, smile and congratulate them on their win even if you don’t understand it.

My personal philosophy is “if it’s important to my partner, then it’s important to me”

thanks for a great post

]]> By: Michele http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-376 Michele Sun, 16 Sep 2007 19:25:14 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-376 You would think that being respectful would be an obvious key to a successful marriage but it surprises me how disrespectful people are to their partners. I see it all the time. You would think that being respectful would be an obvious key to a successful marriage but it surprises me how disrespectful people are to their partners. I see it all the time.

]]> By: Rob http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-378 Rob Sun, 16 Sep 2007 19:38:54 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-378 Mostly it's a power struggle and comes from the need to be right. Giving up the need to be right is so freeing and removes a bunch of stress. Why would people need to prove themselves to be right? Let go of it I bet that's one of the secrets coming up Mostly it’s a power struggle and comes from the need to be right.

Giving up the need to be right is so freeing and removes a bunch of stress. Why would people need to prove themselves to be right?

Let go of it

I bet that’s one of the secrets coming up

]]> By: Michele http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-381 Michele Sun, 16 Sep 2007 20:19:52 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-381 I am not saying...my lips are sealed until next Sunday's article! :) I am not saying…my lips are sealed until next Sunday’s article! :)

]]> By: Michele http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-382 Michele Sun, 16 Sep 2007 20:34:17 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-382 "Why would people need to prove themselves to be right?" Because they believe being right = I get my way in the issue. I know I usually like to get my way on an issue that is important to me. “Why would people need to prove themselves to be right?”

Because they believe being right = I get my way in the issue. I know I usually like to get my way on an issue that is important to me.

]]> By: James http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-450 James Thu, 27 Sep 2007 23:47:37 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-450 niether of you are married how can you even discuss this? you might be well happy in your relationships and i take my hat off to you for that totally but!!!!!!!! your not married..so until you know..why write? niether of you are married how can you even discuss this?

you might be well happy in your relationships and i take my hat off to you for that totally but!!!!!!!!

your not married..so until you know..why write?

]]> By: Rob http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-452 Rob Fri, 28 Sep 2007 00:00:14 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-452 It's a book review James I dont believe I have to be married to speak about relationships. I was living common law for 5 years once. After a year, it's legally binding, so I think I can comment on the subject. thanks It’s a book review James

I dont believe I have to be married to speak about relationships. I was living common law for 5 years once. After a year, it’s legally binding, so I think I can comment on the subject.

thanks

]]> By: Michele http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-454 Michele Fri, 28 Sep 2007 00:14:13 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-454 James I have been in 3 common law relationships - so technically, you could say I have been married. Everything that is discussed here is about relationships/marriage. I have dated enough guys to get a sense of what works and what doesn't - but I am always on a quest to know more and do things better. Just because someone is married, doesn't make them an authority on the subject...and if someone is not married doesn't mean they are clueless about marriage. James

I have been in 3 common law relationships - so technically, you could say I have been married.

Everything that is discussed here is about relationships/marriage. I have dated enough guys to get a sense of what works and what doesn’t - but I am always on a quest to know more and do things better.

Just because someone is married, doesn’t make them an authority on the subject…and if someone is not married doesn’t mean they are clueless about marriage.

]]> By: Rob http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-460 Rob Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:19:08 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-460 To the reader reading those last two comments from Michele and I, a question: what do you sense in those comments? any energy at all? Does the comment come from Love? Stating a fact? Replying to the one who asked the question (James) ? nothing is anything until we make it something There was a question: <blockquote>niether of you are married how can you even discuss this? and why write?</blockquote> So we answered the question. James, if you read hate into those answers, then that's your shit, not ours buddy. I was driving through a parking lot of a supermarket a few years ago. This guy who was walking along about to cross in front of me yelled out at me "What the fuck are you looking at?" with lots of anger. I said "I'm giving you the right of way to cross in front of me". I was staring at him, waiting for him to cross, giving him the right of way. He took it as anger and hatred and that's what he expressed to me. I was offering him the chance to safely cross in front of my car, coming from a place of peace. We each see things how we see them. (this is a reply to an email I received from James) To the reader reading those last two comments from Michele and I, a question:

what do you sense in those comments? any energy at all?

Does the comment come from Love? Stating a fact? Replying to the one who asked the question (James) ?

nothing is anything until we make it something

There was a question:

niether of you are married how can you even discuss this? and why write?

So we answered the question.

James, if you read hate into those answers, then that’s your shit, not ours buddy.

I was driving through a parking lot of a supermarket a few years ago. This guy who was walking along about to cross in front of me yelled out at me “What the fuck are you looking at?” with lots of anger. I said “I’m giving you the right of way to cross in front of me”. I was staring at him, waiting for him to cross, giving him the right of way. He took it as anger and hatred and that’s what he expressed to me. I was offering him the chance to safely cross in front of my car, coming from a place of peace.

We each see things how we see them.

(this is a reply to an email I received from James)

]]> By: James http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-464 James Fri, 28 Sep 2007 02:25:43 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-464 hey hey hey,,,,,please please please i will defned myself a little bit here!!! i might be a lot of things and i know i am but come on!!!! you guys know nothing of my shit... i asked a simple question, how do unmarried people write something like that, you both answered me personally...which was nice!!!!!!!!!!!! so why????????? do the whole quote thing? you both know i "think" you are cool people...etc etc... I was just asking a question...that is all... hey hey hey,,,,,please please please i will defned myself a little bit here!!! i might be a lot of things and i know i am but come on!!!! you guys know nothing of my shit…

i asked a simple question, how do unmarried people write something like that, you both answered me personally…which was nice!!!!!!!!!!!! so why?????????

do the whole quote thing? you both know i “think” you are cool people…etc etc…

I was just asking a question…that is all…

]]> By: Michele http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-468 Michele Fri, 28 Sep 2007 13:01:06 +0000 http://www.formerfatguyblog.com/2007/09/16/the-secrets-of-marriages-lasting-more-than-40-years-%e2%80%93-part-one.html#comment-468 James, we were just answering your question. It was not personal until you emailed Rob and I both accusing us of hating you - which then caused Rob to respond. You asked a simple question. We answered a simple question. Now, no more drama please. Now if anyone has a new question, please feel free to ask - not to take away from James question as it was a valid question - but I believe it has been answered. FYI: The two men that wrote the book have never been married. :) James, we were just answering your question. It was not personal until you emailed Rob and I both accusing us of hating you - which then caused Rob to respond.

You asked a simple question. We answered a simple question. Now, no more drama please.

Now if anyone has a new question, please feel free to ask - not to take away from James question as it was a valid question - but I believe it has been answered.

FYI: The two men that wrote the book have never been married. :)

]]>