Wow – honesty, cool! It is on one hand …

by Rob on May 23, 2013

Comment posted on Speaking My Truth by Darlene

Wow – honesty, cool!

It is on one hand that I can count the number of people I know that are truly honest and speak their truth. Most of us do fear being judged by others, making us like them, etc – whatever our reasoning or excuse.

I say go for it and more power to you and whatever words are necessary to get the message across – use ‘em!

Darlene

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Actually it’s not wheat – only wheat is wheat. Spelt is a GRAIN, and so is wheat. But spelt is not wheat. Brown rice is a grain, so is kamut, so is barley, rye and triticale. Read this for more information:

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Tagged as: Beliefs, Four Agreements, Love, Power of Words, Speaking My Truth, Spirituality

{ 15 comments }

1 Scott Tousignant July 3, 2007 at 12:20 pm: Holy Crap Rob…

You just laid it all out there my man!

The one lesson that your readers can take from this is that you are an honest man and they can trust that you are speaking from the heart and from truth.

Too many people put on a front to try to please everyone. Big lesson here… You can’t please everyone.

Hey bud… you’ve got a raving fan now. Not because you may use the F word, but because of your passion and ability to get a strong message across and give it the power that it deserves.

Myself, I use the word ‘frickin’ an aweful lot and it’s always when I’m passionate about something and really want to emphasize a point and catch the persons attention.

Thanks for sharing so much of your personal life with us. There are many lessons that we can learn from you and you continue to make a real difference in this world.

Keep it up Rob!

Scott Tousignant, BHK, CFC

http://www.AskTheFitBastard.com/blog

PS Yep my nickname is ‘The Fit Bastard’… I’m sure that will offend a few people… but it certainly inspires many.
2 John Fraser July 3, 2007 at 1:03 pm: Congradulations Coop!
I was amazed and inspired by your message to your readers called, ‘Speaking My Truth.’ We all can learn a big lesson here about what we edit in fear of judgement, personal ridicule, and what we want to appear as to others. Congradulations on what seems to be a breakthrough in your own life and the truth and honesty that you wish to offer to your readers. We can all use a little more honesty in our lives.
I’ve known this amazing man for a few years now and can attest to his kind heart, his loving and honest nature, and his huge arms. I encourage you all to continue to return to this site, use the amazing information contained here, and speak your own truth.
Much love and respect.
JOHN FRASER
http://www.itsgoodtobeme.net
3 Darlene July 3, 2007 at 7:37 pm: Wow – honesty, cool!

It is on one hand that I can count the number of people I know that are truly honest and speak their truth. Most of us do fear being judged by others, making us like them, etc – whatever our reasoning or excuse.

I say go for it and more power to you and whatever words are necessary to get the message across – use ‘em!

Darlene
4 Lucie July 3, 2007 at 7:57 pm: WTG Rob ! This time, I agree with you 100%…non…let’s say 200%…Be the Rob we want to know…be the Rob you are…this is the one we want…well…let’s speak for myself…this is the Rob I want to see and read, the Rob that changed my life. Go Bud ! you are wonderful !

Lucie xx
5 Rita July 4, 2007 at 3:09 am: Rob, great letter! People will think what they like no matter what. If they are offended, so be it, if they are inspired, that’s great! It is a choice as you said.

I don’t even know you and I can tell that you are a great guy. Becoming authentic takes a lot of work and courage. It’s called being real…I support you for being who you are… a whole person that may use the F word when he feels appropriate.

AHO!
Fellow Warrior!
6 Marie July 4, 2007 at 8:16 am: I love that you are not going to hesitate to choose the words that best reflect the way you feel to avoid offending others. From what I’ve read, you seem to be a great guy so it is wonderful to get to read more of your thoughts, opinions and knowledge… without watering them down. To me, I feel like it is a step closer to the real you, making it more… honest? And certainly more meaningful. I believe as long as there is no intension to hurt others there is nothing wrong with the way a person expresses themselves.

On a side note, you are quite an inspiration to me and I will be checking back on your site regularly. You are a person well worth looking up to!
7 Rob July 4, 2007 at 8:30 am: Thank you for all your comments. It’s a nice balance to this

“Please don’t send any more emails to this address. When I signed up, I did not expect profanity and am appalled and saddened that I received it from this source. “

Each and every email I send out has an unsubscribe link at the bottom. I invite everyone to take action on their life, their health, their physique. Let no one stand in your way of your dream.. take action. If that means clicking on an unsubscribe link.. then so be it… take charge. It is you who creates your reality. If I inspire you, fantastic.. lets go on an incredible journey of wellness… if I offend you with truth, honesty and what.. 1 word in the past 10 years.. then I am saddened to see you leave. Good luck with your new adventure.. I wish you well and the best of success.

Thank you Marie, Lucie… oui.. Lucie xxoo, Rita, Darlene, John and Scott.

Your thoughts.. one way or the other, I welcome them all
8 Paula July 5, 2007 at 9:15 am: Rob I admire your decision to be true to yourself first and foremost and true and honest with those of us that look to you for inspiration, knowledge, and support! No matter how hard you work in life to do what you want and love to do, there is ALWAYS going to be a nay-sayer out there that will work just as hard to tear you down. Sometimes these people come in the form of strangers replying to your emails and sometimes they come as friends and family.
Strangers you can easily ignore, if you told them it was going to rain 100 dollar bills and all they had to do was put out buckets to catch them in they would find something wrong with the situation. We have to learn to move on and let them live their lives in the condition they choose to do so.
Friends and family seem to make it a little harder to ignore, but it can be done! It’s nice to have their support, acceptance, and approval but I’m realizing more and more I can be happy without it.
Once again you have inspired me! This time to stand up for what I believe and be the person I am.
Thank you Rob for being so willing to share so much of yourself with us. I know we must get a little exhausting sometimes but you have already helped me make very positive changes in my life and for that I will ALWAYS be grateful to you.

By the way, if you haven’t already I suggest you read “The Five People You Meet In Heaven” by Mitch Albom. There is no possible way YOU could ever understand all positive influences you have right now the lives of people you have never met and probably never will meet. Thank you for that!
9 Kelly July 6, 2007 at 10:10 pm: Wow, what can I say. It’s sad that somebody would get so worked up over one word that they missed the whole message. As for the message in that post, it was strong. I had to do some self examination and kick myself in the ass. My first thought was, “has she looked in a mirror lately? She’s beautiful!” I felt sort of annoyed at first but then I came back to myself. I know I can’t compare her journey to mine. This is about so much more than weight loss. She may have less pounds to lose than I do but she’s still facing the same challenges and frustrations and can still use our support. So, Angela, you have my support and Rob, you have my respect. Thank you for being who you are and sharing it with all of us.
10 Angela July 12, 2007 at 12:28 pm: That’s the Coop I know!
The truth is all we have, when we live it every moment a whole new world opens up!
You will attract different people in your life, you will create amazing opportunites and the best part is you will love yourself event more.
A great role model for sure!
That’s why we are the bestest buds we are, Truth Prevails.
Love ya!
Ang
11 Zach Even - Esh July 13, 2007 at 7:00 pm: right on brother, you’re f**in’ killin’ it now!
12 Lisa Gorry July 17, 2007 at 10:14 am: Hi Rob – I too was one of those people that read your reply to “one serious commitment…” and was left feeling kinda “let down”. It’s like when someone builds up, and gets you all excited about a movie, and then when it doesn’t live up, you’re disappointed. I remember feeling kinda sorry that this was the best e-mail you have ever received.

I have just read your response to all the feedback you received “speaking my truth” and the first thing that came to mind was “overkill”. So, perhaps your over-reaction to situations is just who you are.

Good for you for speaking your truth, your mind, and saying whatever you want to say. It’s just too bad that you feel the need to rationalize it in a 35 paragraph, gazzillion word essay filled with religious analogies and explanations as to when and where you swear???

Nobody can say you’re not passionate and I did find the rhetoric entertaining. I enjoy your website.

Lisa
13 Rob July 17, 2007 at 10:26 am: Thanks for the point of view Lisa, I appreciate it.

I had responded to Lucie who at first was not inspired at Ang’s email either. This is how I responded (via email)

What is inspiring about that email is that it’s one of the first I’ve received (unsolicited) that lays out exactly what her goal is, what steps she’s taking to get there, what she realizes, that she wants to be held accountable.

she’s taking powerful action and has laid out the exact path she’s going to take

it’s incredibly inspiring.

if more people had that kind of commitment and drive, and painted a clear picture of where they were going, it would be a much more wonderful world.

what I see day to day is people who limit themselves. They tell me they’re going to try to lose weight, or that something “might be a good idea” but have no direction and have not fully committed. They ask me “how to lose weight” and I respond by asking a question about their current program and what they’ve done so far.. and I almost never hear back from them.. They want the answers but haven’t done anything at all yet and don’t even engage in a conversation about it. No direction and no commitment.

Ang has about what 10 or 20 pounds to lose and convert to muscle. She has (from our point of view) a small drop in the bucket to lose, but she asked for help and is willing to take direction. That’s so powerful

it’s the powerful commitment that inspired me

I understand that you’re new to my community, but my underlying and heavily promoted point is “commitment and taking action” and I rarely see it. I am surrounded by people who tell me they’re going to do something and then never follow through. Then they come back to me a year or two later and tell me again that they’re going to do something. I spend hours writing to people coaching and they never act on it. As much as I want to help, I am looking for those people who commit to it and take action, and never quit. Frankly, I don’t see it too often.

maybe it’s me. I must be attracting that. Well, I’ve changed and I want to surround myself with people who commit and take action.

maybe that got lost in the translation.

thank you for your feedback.

look past how much weight she has to lose and look at the commitment and the plan she’s laid out

Powerfull

and as for your comment about THIS post… Thank You.
14 Josh Streeter July 18, 2007 at 10:19 am: Hell yeah! Not being yourself would mean having secrets. It’s a little secret that you occasionally use a four letter word. It’s a little secret that you don’t believe God is a bearded man who lives in the sky. Oh well.

If you don’t have secrets, your secrets cannot be exposed, and you cease to be vulnerable. Let me tell you, it’s a rough path, unless you fully commit to detachment. Once you fully detach from the concern of other’s opinions, you will attract 10 fold the good people in your life.

It’s odd how people like other people who are just themselves, even if they don’t share their views. Like me liking Bobby Knight for being himself, even though I disagree with nearly all of his childish crap. You at least know you’re not getting smoke blown up your ass.

Carry on, brother! BTW, you’re the second person I who has recommended Warrior Camp. I’m going to have to put some serious consideration into that.
15 Rob July 18, 2007 at 11:41 am: OverKill and Over-reaction… hmmm

How about Passion and Passionate? Yep, I’m both. Thanks

and Josh… Thanks brother! Good to see your comment here! I’m on target for 7% bodyfat by Christmas. Never really committed to that goal until about 6 weeks ago. Now I’m all over it!

7% by Christmas, thats my personal promise to myself